The truth is we are often our own worst enemy. It’s time to get out of your own way. Life isn’t easy, but struggling against it leads to misery.
There’s something to be said for accepting reality and doing your best to move through the world. That doesn’t mean giving up. It means keeping your negative thoughts and emotions in-check while doing your best.
Your mental struggles are no more effective than a wish that will never come true. Struggling against reality leads to unhappiness.
Try these tips to work through those times:
1. Face the facts. You will never be able to fly, reliving the past is not possible. When you can’t see the reality of the world, you repeat your mistakes.
2. What has happened is done. Let it go. Look forward to the next adventure.
3. Focus on what you can influence. You can’t change your height, the color of your skin, your age, your family, other people, the weather, and so on. Keep your attention on what you can control. * Thinking and worrying about the things you cannot control, and getting upset about them, is damaging. You feel worse than you did when you started. You also feel more hopeless and less in control of your life.
4. Pain is part of life, but suffering is optional. Struggling is a type of suffering. Things will happen that you perceive negatively. Someone will back into your car, or you’ll spill coffee on your favorite pants. Whether you allow the outcome to upset you is entirely within your power.
5. Your Mindset and beliefs are EVERYTHING. Reality is reality, regardless of your thoughts, but your perception of reality is altered negatively when your self-talk is negative. Either keep your self-talk positive or be mindful enough that your self-talk disappears. The former is much less challenging than the latter. The secret to inner peace is to stop struggling against reality. Reality always wins when you try to push against it. It’s immutable.
Rather than struggling with reality, let go of your expectations. You can only be disappointed when you fail to get what you expect. Do your best, but avoid being bothered by what life delivers to your door step. Simply grab your broom and cheerfully sweep it away.